The Strength Lies in Accepting

 

Time is unforgiving. Life doesn’t let us rewind a moment, step back into an old version of ourselves, or undo the accident we never saw coming. It doesn’t offer a second attempt at the same crossroads — no matter how much remorse we carry or how deeply we wish we could fix what we once did wrong.

What it does offer — quietly, consistently — is the chance to learn. To reshape. To live each day a little better than the last.

I once heard an older musician speak about losing hearing in one ear early in his career. He said something I’ve never forgotten:
“I spent five years trying to get back to who I was before the accident. I wasted that time trying to heal the unhealable.”

For half a decade, he wasn’t fighting the condition — he was fighting the past, fighting the idea of the life he believed he was supposed to have. Only when he finally accepted that this particular loss was permanent did something shift. Acceptance didn’t restore his hearing, but it restored his direction.

He reworked his technique, retrained his sense of balance, and found a new creative rhythm that didn’t betray what he had lost but built upon what he still had. And from that place, a different kind of joy emerged.

There is a quiet strength in acknowledging a changed reality. Acceptance isn’t defeat. It isn’t surrender. It is simply recognising life’s randomness and moving with it instead of against it.

The ability to integrate the wound and still move through life — not perfectly, not painlessly, but purposefully — is its own form of victory.

In the end, the true virtue is this:
stop trying to return to the person you once were,
and start becoming the person you are meant to be next.

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Our Life, Our Ship, Our Sails

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How many times, sitting at your office desk, have you wondered, “What am I even doing here?”
How many times have your friends or colleagues quietly confessed the same?
How many evenings have you returned home after a long day — not just tired, but drained in a way that effort alone cannot explain?

When we look closely, the reason often traces back to drifting away from a simple, unavoidable truth we must internalize if we ever want real peace:

Everyone has to live their life on their own terms.

It sounds simple — almost obvious — but living this philosophy is one of the hardest things we’ll ever attempt. It requires a kind of ongoing awareness, a gentle but firm refusal to be pulled into the noise of the world. It means letting go of the weight of external expectations, even when they come wrapped in love.

I’ve seen this struggle most clearly when people stand at the crossroads of big decisions — like someone wanting to leave a stable, well-paying engineering job to become a stand-up comedian. The reactions they receive, though well-intentioned, rarely come from a neutral place. Advice arrives filtered through someone else’s fears, experiences, and worldview.

And that’s when we must remind ourselves of something essential.

Our lives are not identical.
Our paths are not interchangeable.
Our inner callings are not meant to follow someone else’s.

We are like ships on the same vast sea — and while the wind blows in the same direction for everyone, each ship sets a different course, sometimes in opposite directions.
It is not the wind, the water, or the weather that shapes our direction.
It is the sails — our purpose, our choices, our inner compass — that truly decide where we go.

Once we understand this, life becomes lighter. Decisions feel clearer. And our peace becomes less negotiable.

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Life Is Bigger Than Your Report Card

 

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Why do we consider someone “good”, “intelligent,” or even “successful” simply because they performed well in school? It’s strange when you think about it.

School and college occupy the first 15 to 20 years of our lives — barely 20–25% of an average lifespan — yet for many, that brief window becomes a label that follows them into adulthood, work, relationships, and even self-worth.

But the truth is simple: life doesn’t unfold in one straight line; it comes in seasons.
We still have the next ten years to bloom, or the ten after that, or the ten that follow, and then — perhaps most profoundly — the last ten. Each stage demands a different kind of wisdom, something that never appears on a school transcript.

Maybe I made the mistake of clubbing too many superlatives together — good, intelligent, successful. They’re not the same thing. So let’s untangle them.

Intelligence cannot be restricted to a report card — it will surface every time it finds a suitable situation. Exams test memory, discipline, and pattern recognition, whereas life asks for emotional intelligence, intuition, social skill, resilience, imagination, and the ability to recover after falling flat.

Success is equally subjective.
For some, it is the number of people they inspire — whether as a teacher, founder, or artist.
For others, it is power — the ability to influence, lead, or shape outcomes.
For many, it is wealth — the freedom to live life on their own terms.
And sometimes, success is simply the ability to exist within an extended family in harmony.

It’s true: those who perform well early in life often build momentum. Good grades open doors, and once momentum gathers, it can carry you far. But there’s a hidden trap — the comfort zone becomes a cage.

So the long and short of it is this: don’t get worked up.
Life has no universal yardstick — because there isn’t one.
Define your own success. Shape it, refine it, evolve it as you go.
And remember: a report card was never meant to measure your entire life — only a small, temporary chapter of it.

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Getting Comfortable with the New You

 

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The hardest part of change isn’t always the change itself — it’s accepting the new version of ourselves after we have changed.

We resist change not because we dislike what’s coming, but because we’re uncertain how to feel about the person we’re becoming.

Let’s understand this with something simple — something many of us have lived through during our teenage years.

In those days, when appearance was everything, a mustache slowly became part of our identity — a quiet symbol of growing up.

At the same time, we were fascinated by movie stars — Amitabh Bachchan, Clint Eastwood, Richard Gere — and their unmistakable clean shaven style. But we weren’t allowed to shave until we reached the threshold set by our parents.

And when that day finally came, it wasn’t easy. Shaving felt like a betrayal — not of innocence, but of self. We were unsure of the new look and unsure of how others would see us.

For me, I shaved just before boarding a long-distance train to New Delhi. Those twenty-four hours on the train helped me get used to my reflection again — to know me, to like me, to be myself.

Self-acceptance sometimes needs distance — from places, from people, from the mirror that remembers too much. It takes a little space where the old identity cannot interfere with the new one taking shape. Perhaps that’s why the sages preferred isolation.

Transformation rarely happens in an instant.
It unfolds in the quiet hours between what was and what will be — like those twenty-four hours on the train.

Change asks for courage.
But acceptance asks for gentleness.

So, when life demands a new version of you — a new role, a new rhythm, a new mindset — take a pause. Give yourself time to meet the stranger you’re becoming.

Because the first person who must accept the change is you.

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Live Well, Spend Well

 

There comes a time in life when young people of every generation stand at a crossroads, trying to decide how to course their lives. It’s natural to want to live well, to spend freely, to enjoy the rewards of hard work. After all, their world is full of possibilities — better incomes, greater mobility, and more experiences than ever before.

But amid this abundance, one truth remains timeless: the wisdom of restraint never goes out of style. The ability to pause, reflect, and choose wisely can make all the difference.

The real question isn’t whether the young generation should spend, but when and how much. Experiences, travel, good food, and friendships are all part of living fully — there’s nothing wrong with wanting these things.
The key is to align spending with what you’ve already earned, not what you hope to earn tomorrow. Spend after knowing the value of money — not before you’ve earned it.

It’s tempting to think: why shouldn’t I take advantage of credit and live a fuller life today, when I’m confident I can repay it tomorrow?
At least then, I’d have enjoyed life both now and later.

But for those who’ve built real wealth within one lifetime, financial maturity didn’t arrive overnight. It came through experience — through both success and failure. It came from mentors who guided, books that shaped their thinking, and a few hard knocks that left their mark.

Nobody gets it right all the time. But with time, we learn that spending less often brings more peace — and that true luxury lies in freedom, not possessions.

So, to the young and ambitious: spend, but spend with awareness. Enjoy, but save with purpose. The future is uncertain — but discipline today is the quiet confidence that tomorrow will take care of itself.

This reflection was born out of watching how easily the line between living well and overspending blurs in modern life.
Thank you for taking a moment from your busy day to read my thoughts. Your time here means a lot.

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Timeless Wisdom on Focus: What the Great Minds Taught Us About Concentration

 

Picture this: I’m sitting with my laptop, trying to write today’s post. But the problem is — I can’t focus. My attention keeps bouncing between the cup of tea on my right and the smartphone on my left.

Sounds familiar? It probably does.
This tug-of-war of attention has a name — intermittent attention.

I’ll be delving deeper into that subject in one of the coming days — the rhythm of focus in our daily lives.
But before that, let’s pause and revisit what some of the greatest minds have said about concentration.

Across centuries, scientists, philosophers, writers, and leaders have echoed one truth:

Focus is a superpower.

It’s a challenge to pick just five timeless thoughts from so many great ones — so here’s a random selection, yet each one a gem:

“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work in hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
— Alexander Graham Bell

“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea... This is the way to success.”
— Swami Vivekananda

“Focus is the art of knowing what to ignore.”
— James Clear

“Concentration is the secret of strength in politics, in war, in trade — in short, in all management of human affairs.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I never could have done what I have done without the habits of punctuality, order, and diligence — without the determination to concentrate myself on one subject at a time.”
— Charles Dickens

Each of these voices points to the same essence:

Attention is the bridge between thought and achievement.

And perhaps tomorrow, we can explore what happens when that bridge begins to flicker — and how to find our way back.

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