Our time is limited and is not worth wasting it living a life filled
with hate for others, is something that I remind myself once in a while. The
above principle, if one wishes, could be the pathfinder for living a life free
from hatred.
Is it easy? Most certainly not!
Interestingly! Once we acknowledge the truth in the saying “to
err is human”, we will be in a much better position while navigating through
the maze of daily challenges.
It’s never too late to start owning up one’s mistake and
seek forgiveness knowing that this is not a characteristic of a weak person and
on the contrary it’s the trait of a Brave-heart. Maybe apologizing will be a
good start.
The difficulty however arises when we are confronted with a
situation where others hurt us or try to harm us. Surprisingly, the answer to this is quite
simple.
Forgive and Forget.
Is it easy? Most certainly not, but I do believe that
practice makes a person perfect over a time.
Yes! It’s important to forget in
order to keep our nasty EGO at bay and ensure it will not raise its dirty head in
self-glorification.
I keep no account when, whom or if I had forgiven anyone and
therefore I do not have a story to narrate. You may ask if I am I a saint. I am
not a saint and as a matter of fact not insane either! I practice this during
my day to day existence wherever I am.
The most common place for irritating others or getting irate
with others is the roads. It’s not only me if I am to trust a report in Psychology
Today from 2016. A survey found out that 78 percent of participating drivers engaged
in at least one kind of aggressive driving behavior in the previous year…..and
that lead to substantial loss of property. The findings could be found
here.
I am happy that I have succeeded in liberating myself from reacting to external
stimuli.
People everywhere travel carrying along their baggage of frustration, hate
and what not, which in my understanding is nothing but pure garbage. Navigating
unscathed from such garbage thrown out by other people is the art of living.
The realization that we can’t control someone else’s actions, while being in
full control of ours is the key takeaway of this art. When someone acts oddly, I
remind myself that the person is just bad at handling stress.
When the situation becomes a bit unbearable, I there is one
rule to follow: save it for later. There
will always be someone with whom we can talk to later on to vent out our
frustration about the situation.
It’s even better if we are able to talk to our inner self to
calm our mind and by doing that we will no longer require an external element
to find our own peace.
We are then able to celebrate our liberation every moment
of our existence.
