Monday, February 17, 2025

L. I. P. - Let’s Celebrate the Living


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Have you ever come across the acronym LIP? If not, keep reading—I’d love to introduce you to this beautiful concept. As I take a bird’s-eye view of the world, a strange pattern emerges—one that leaves me wondering: When are we humans, as a species and a society, going to grow up?

You often see an outpouring of grief when someone passes away—social media flooded with RIP messages, heartfelt tributes, and stories of how they touched lives. These messages may comfort grieving relatives and those left behind, but the person they are meant for is no longer here to read them. Ever wonder where all this warmth was when they were alive?

As we moved from close-knit families to isolated satellite units, our community bonds weakened. Once, we knew our neighbours, shared joys and struggles, and looked out for one another. Today, we barely know who lives next door, let alone what they believe or battle in silence. Human connection, once instinctive, now feels like an afterthought.

How often do we pause to check in on a struggling friend, acknowledge someone’s quiet efforts, or simply remind the people around us that they matter? It’s almost as if appreciation and kindness come with a waiting period—one that only begins when it’s too late. Literally after the expiry date.

What if we flipped this script? Instead of mourning the dead, let’s make a habit of uplifting the living. There’s no need to save kind words for obituaries—let’s share them today, while they can still be heard.

This is where LIP—Live in Peace can transform the way we engage with the world. Imagine a reality where LIP became as common as RIP—where people felt valued, supported, and encouraged while they were still here. A world where we actively celebrate lives, not just mourn their loss.

We often talk about leaving behind a better world for future generations, but maybe the real challenge is making this one kinder for those who are already here. 

Sunday, February 9, 2025

Life, Loss, and the Lessons We Never Wanted

 

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Nancy Stephan wrote in her memoir, There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, people we can’t live without but have to let go.” This powerful truth resonates deeply, touching each of us at different points in life. While we may grasp it intellectually, experiencing it firsthand is an entirely different matter. There is always a gap between knowing and truly internalizing. As the Bard put it, if practice were as easy as knowing what to do, then “chapels would be churches and poor men’s houses, princes' palaces.” The real struggle lies not in understanding life’s truths but in learning to live with them.

Hardship, loss, and unfulfilled expectations can leave us questioning everything. Why this? Why now? Why me? We search for answers, sometimes directing our frustration at a higher power, other times merely shouting into the void. But questioning, while natural, seldom brings resolution. So how do we move forward when life derails our plans?

There’s no universal answer, no foolproof formula. But one thing that helps is cultivating a mindset of positivity—not by denying pain, but by consciously choosing to focus on what we can control. It’s about acknowledging hardship while reminding ourselves of our resilience. It’s about seeking support, allowing space to heal, and believing in the possibility of finding light even in the darkest moments.

Life isn’t a straight road, and there’s no set timeline for moving forward. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s okay. What matters is being kind to ourselves and trusting that, in time, we will find our way.

At the heart of it all is acceptance—of life as it comes.

  • Whatever happens in life has to happen.
  • Whomever we meet, we meet for a reason.
  • Whenever something is meant to start, it will start then—neither sooner nor later.
  • What is over is over—let go, without guilt.
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Friday, February 7, 2025

Life as a Canvas: Lessons from Sir Ken Robinson

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Most of us couldn’t have foreseen the life we’re living today when we were kids. We envisioned ourselves as astronauts, artists, explorers, or inventors, blissfully unaware of the twists and turns life would inevitably take. As we grew, those dreams began to shift, adapting to the opportunities we encountered and the talents we discovered within ourselves. But dreams alone weren’t enough. Our journey depended on our willingness to seize those opportunities, take risks, and navigate setbacks—sometimes with courage, sometimes with doubt, but always with the hope of creating something meaningful.

“Life has never been a fixed blueprint handed to us; it’s an ever-evolving canvas, as unique as the fingerprints of the person creating it.” As Sir Ken put it, what makes life extraordinary is its threefold nature: it is deeply personal, brimming with creative potential, and inherently organic. We often begin with a general sense of direction, shaped by family, society, or culture. As we move forward, life reveals itself as far more intricate and unpredictable than we ever imagined. It refuses to conform to neat, linear plans. Instead, it grows, bends, and reshapes itself, guided by the choices we make, the lessons we learn, and, at times, forces entirely beyond our control. In moments of uncertainty, we seek solace in our philosophical way of life, which suggests that whatever happens is meant to happen—a comforting thought when the road ahead seems uncertain.

“Living is a process of constant improvisation, much like composing music in real time.” There’s no master script, no flawless performance. We create meaning as we go, weaving together experiences, emotions, and aspirations to form a melody uniquely our own. Mistakes become opportunities for growth—when we pivot from disappointment, adapt to change, or follow an instinct that leads us somewhere unforeseen. “Life’s greatest beauty often lies in its surprises—of continuously crafting, refining, and finding harmony amidst the inevitable chaos.”

“Each step we take adds layers to our story; 

                              it’s something we actively create, 

                                                                moment by moment.” 

Every decision we make, every relationship we nurture, and every passion we pursue contributes to the intricate tapestry of our lives. And through it all, we learn that life is less about reaching a destination and more about embracing the journey, with all its imperfections and possibilities.

As we wrap up, consider how the ideas shared today might make a difference in your world. If you have questions or experiences to share, the comments section is open and welcoming. Don’t forget to bookmark this site for new stories and updates that matter to you.

Monday, January 6, 2025

When Frustration Turns to Fury: The Creator's Struggle in a Digital World

 

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I recently took a nostalgic dive into my blog archives, revisiting posts I'd written as far back as 2008. In those early, more prolific days, I was fortunate to cultivate a loyal readership. We formed a close-knit community, eagerly anticipating each other’s posts and sharing glimpses of our lives. Occasionally, others with a more transactional “you scratch my back, I scratch yours” mindset would join in, and we’d reciprocate. But neither of these interactions ever propelled our posts beyond a niche audience—virality, after all, is the domain of algorithms.

As I pondered the evolution of content creation, an incident from April 2018 came to mind—a tragic shooting at YouTube’s headquarters in San Bruno, California. The perpetrator, an aggrieved content creator, believed that YouTube’s algorithms were unfairly suppressing her work. While her actions were indefensible, her frustrations echoed a sentiment many creators have felt: the struggle against an opaque, seemingly unfair system.

Social media algorithms, designed to keep users engaged, often prioritize sensationalism over substance. Poorly crafted or shallow content frequently goes viral, while thoughtful, heartfelt work languishes in obscurity. It’s an irrational system, rewarding engagement metrics over meaningful contributions—a stark reflection of life’s own inequities.

Success in the digital realm often feels like a game of chance, governed by the inscrutable whims of algorithms that cannot measure authenticity or passion. Yet, the playing field may be uneven, but I believe meaningful work—work driven by sincerity and purpose—has a lasting impact that no algorithm can erase.

As I conclude, I pose these questions to you: How do you navigate the challenges of an algorithm-driven world? What strategies have you found to amplify your voice amidst the noise? And, perhaps most importantly, how do you manage the frustration—the urge to go up on the hill and shout?


Note: I have published this post simultaneously in my LinkedIn page




Wednesday, January 1, 2025

2025 - The Passionpreneur's Journey

 

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Some people savor what they do, finding joy in each task. Others endure their work, living for the weekend. It’s easy to get stuck in a cycle, trapped by the gravitational pull of present circumstances. But as AA Milne so beautifully phrased it through Winnie the Pooh:

“I always get to where I’m going by walking away from where I’ve been.”

In 2024, I stumbled upon a new word: Passionpreneur.
What’s a passionpreneur, you ask?

The dictionary defines it as someone who discovers their passion, transforms it into a profitable business, and in doing so, positively impacts others' lives. Inspiring, isn’t it?

Yet, embarking on such a journey isn’t always simple. Like a spacecraft breaking free from Earth’s gravity, stepping into a new realm requires its own form of escape velocity. This metaphorical velocity propels us away from unhappiness, self-doubt, and the fear of the unknown.

So, how does one generate this escape velocity?

Experts suggest a combination of strategies:

  1. Shift Your Focus: Embrace positivity and practice gratitude to break the cycle of negative thinking.

  2. Invest in Self-Care: Your energy is your fuel—nurture it with good food, exercise, and rest.

  3. Challenge Limiting Beliefs: Reframe self-doubt by reflecting on your past successes.

  4. Set Goals That Inspire: Break them into achievable steps; every small win builds momentum.

  5. Seek Your Tribe: Surround yourself with people who uplift you, cheer you on, and remind you of your potential.

As we step into 2025, my wish for everyone is this: May you find the strength to break free from what holds you back, discover your passion, and embark on a journey of purpose and fulfillment. Whether or not you choose to become a passionpreneur, I hope you unlock the vast universe of opportunity that awaits.

Here’s to a year of boundless possibilities! Have  blessed New Year 2025

Note: This post is posted simultaneously in my LinkedIn page - https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/2025-passionpreneurs-journey-suman-deb-ray-msc-mciob-ymmxf/



Monday, December 23, 2024

Believe in Yourself: The Key to Life's Autumn

 

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As we approach the autumn of life, what do we find waiting for us? A time of decline, or a season of transformation and growth? The "autumn of life" offers a unique moment to pause, reflect, and embrace the wisdom we’ve gathered along life’s journey.

In early civilizations of the Indian subcontinent, life was distinctly divided into Chatur Ashramas, or the four stages of life:

  • Brahmacharya (celibacy): A period dedicated to acquiring knowledge.

  • Grihastha (married life): Focused on family responsibilities and building a livelihood.

  • Vanaprastha (retired life): A retreat to the forest, leaving household duties behind.

  • Sannyasa (renunciation): A life of asceticism and spiritual pursuit.

These stages reflect the natural rhythm of life, with the latter two—Vanaprastha and Sannyasa—mirroring the reflective phase of autumn. The Vanaprastha phase, akin to this metaphorical autumn, signaled a shift in priorities and purpose. Individuals handed over household responsibilities to the next generation and adopted solitude—a period often associated with wisdom, reflection, and personal transformation. Confidence in one’s abilities was intrinsic to embracing this transition with grace and purpose.

Preparing for Life's Autumn

At its core, the autumn of life signifies maturity and acceptance. It’s a time to confront the reality that life inevitably changes:

  • Children and grandchildren will become busy with their own lives, leaving little time for older generations.

  • There’s a 50% chance that one’s spouse or partner will pass away first, altering the structure of daily life.

  • Friends, too, will leave this world, shrinking social circles over time.

  • Physical vigor will wane, and the body will require greater care and attention.

  • The mind’s ability to retain new information or recall memories will weaken.

As culture evolved, solitude shifted from a physical retreat to an emotional one. Instead of leaving our homes to seek quietude, it is now often our children who move away, pursuing their own destinies. For those of us who grasp this reality while still in our spring, there is an opportunity to learn contentment in our own company.

Self-assurance becomes essential in navigating these transitions. It allows us to adapt, reflect, and find purpose, even amidst changing circumstances. Early preparation for a life where self-sufficiency anchors well-being is akin to discovering life’s elixir. It’s not about aging but embracing the profound psychological, emotional, and spiritual shifts that define this stage.

One for the Road Ahead

By planning intentionally and nurturing self-assurance, one can navigate this phase with grace and purpose. Like most things in life, success is achieved through discipline and dedication. Here are a few essential practices to help navigate this phase with strength and purpose:

  • Maintain consistent sleep patterns and a nutritious, balanced diet.

  • Engage in restorative exercises such as yoga, walking, or tai chi.

  • Schedule regular health check-ups to address evolving needs proactively.

  • Practice mindfulness through meditation, gratitude journaling, or deep breathing exercises.

  • Surround yourself with positive influences and cultivate meaningful relationships.

These practices not only nurture physical and emotional well-being but also reinforce the inner strength needed to thrive in this phase.

Conclusion

The autumn of life, like the season itself, is not a time of decline. Rather, it is a time of transformation, renewal, and growth. By embracing this phase with intention, resilience, and inner strength, we can transform it into a gateway to a life rich with purpose and contentment.


Saturday, December 14, 2024

Finding Purpose: A New Year’s Reflection for a Meaningful Life

 

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Many years ago, I received some wonderful advice that has guided me, albeit imperfectly, in shaping my life. Today, as we approach 2025, I feel inspired to share it with the hope that it might encourage others to adopt these thoughts in their own journey.

“Finding your purpose in life can be transformative. It’s not just about work, routines, or chasing success—it’s about discovering what truly makes you come alive and finding ways to share that with the world. Maybe it’s helping others, inspiring change, exploring new cultures, or simply brightening someone’s day with a kind gesture.

Life isn’t just about avoiding the wrong path; it’s about choosing the right one and walking it with intention. Each of us has something unique to contribute, no matter how small it might seem.

Purpose doesn’t have to be a grand, all-encompassing idea. It’s in the small moments, the acts of kindness, and the courage to strive for something more. When you lean into what truly matters to you, life becomes less about getting through the day and more about creating days worth living.”

Because at the end of the day, life is about finding purpose and striving for good.


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